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Potty Training!

When Abigail was 18 months old, she started asking to use the potty and consistently using it when I would set her on the potty chair. Well, instead of rolling with it, I kept her in diapers. Why, you ask? A few reasons: 1) people kept telling me Abigail was too young to potty train and 2) I had no idea how to potty train and couldn’t wrap my head around paying any money on literature that would tell me how to do it. First of all, I should have trusted my gut- I know my kid better than all those other people, and second of all, spending the money would have been worth it…

Turns out, girls typically show interest in potty training between 18 and 24 months. AND it is much easier to potty train during a toddler’s “I want to copy and please you” stage and much more difficult to potty train during their “I’m my own person and¬†want to control everything” stage, which typically hits around age 2.

Anyway, a month or so ago I went to MommyCon in Atlanta, a convention designed around parenting (specifically natural parenting), and was fortunate enough to attend a potty training seminar, put on by Laura Wojciechowski of Super Undies! I followed Laura’s advice by holding a Potty Training Boot Camp Weekend.¬†Abigail made so much progress, that by the end of one¬†weekend, she was in panties full time, only wearing a diaper for nap time and night time.

For quite a while prior to our intensive training,¬†Abigail and I talked about the potty, and pee pee and poo poo. She came with me to the bathroom every time I had to go so she could “witness” me using the potty (she particularly loves flushing the toilet for me). We read potty books, we sang potty songs, we talked about the contents of her diaper at every change. The experts call this “potty culture immersion.” Yes, seriously. And it really does matter. Then, I made a potty training sticker chart.¬†Don’t judge my lack of artistic ability.

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I also bought a bunch of cheap “treasures”¬†($1 or less per toy) and a treasure chest. Some people use candy as their reward, but I chose toys. Candy is certainly more affordable. You choose what works for YOUR family!

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I bought and installed this ingenious toilet seat from my local hardware store, potty seat.jpg

and bought a plain, white plastic potty chair. I got lots of panties, a cheap kitchen timer, salty snacks, lots of juice, and of course, flushable wipes. We were ready!

The weekend arrived. The boot camp method requires you to do one of two things: pay really close attention to your child, or to lock yourself within feet of the potty… Well since I’m too easily distracted we chose the lock-in method.¬†Abby’s bedroom has an ensuite bathroom, so we¬†locked ourselves in her room for the morning. I set the timer for 10 minutes, and when the timer went off, Abby sat on the potty. She¬†would sit there until she peed or for 30 minutes, whichever came first. It a long day. There were temper tantrums. There were tears. There was a power struggle between me and my strong willed daughter. The most important thing about these battles of will, was that I NEVER got upset with Abigail. I maintained my patience, kept calm, holding her on the potty, explaining in a soft voice that everybody uses the potty and she needed to start pee peeing in the potty just like mama and dada, and that as soon as she pee peed, she could get up. Most times she would pee while she was throwing her fit, and I would redirect her immediately¬†by throwing¬†a huge party with every success. Once she washed her hands, I let Abigail pick a treasure from the treasure chest, and put a sticker on the chart.¬†Each pee pee in the potty was a step closer to being diaper free.

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We also had a LOT of accidents. Each accident resulted in¬†“no big deal, don’t¬†worry, just try and tell me before you pee pee next time.” Each accident was an opportunity for me to set Abigail up for success. I’ll say it again, it was a long day. ¬†By the time nap rolled around, we were both exhausted, cranky, and sick of Abigail’s small room. The break was welcomed with open arms.

I took a shower and slept for two hours, while Abby slept for three. We both woke up as new women, and I made an executive decision: we were taking the party outside. The plastic potty chair, the wipes, the rewards, the timer, snacks, juice, spare pants and panties- EVERYTHING- traveled to the backyard. The change of scenery was a Godsend. In the beautiful weather, under the oak trees in our yard, Abigail¬†had a breakthrough. It just clicked. She would pee in the potty within five minutes of sitting down. I didn’t have to hold her on the potty; she sat willingly. It was amazing.

Each day, we would add five minutes to her timer so she would hold her pee longer between potty breaks. Gradual progress. We had decided to keep the rest of the weekend low key, but with the help of the timer, we ventured out into the world. The timer was very valuable to us. Abigail did not like having Mama or Dada remind her to use the potty since it felt, to her, like taking orders. Using the timer eliminated that fight. If the timer said it was time to potty, it was time to potty, no argument.

Since our exhausting “boot camp” weekend, Abby has been doing incredibly¬†well.¬†She still has accidents on occasion, but they are becoming less and less frequent. She is in panties full time, and has been waking up from naps dry, so hopefully we will be out of diapers at nap time soon! Abigail¬†has been a rock star through the whole process. I’m so proud of her.

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Rollin’ Wit’ Ma Homies

It has been a while since I’ve posted, I know… I’m sure you have all been waiting with bated breath… (LOL)¬†But anyway, I’m back. And I’m going to try and post¬†at least semi-regularly (now THAT’S commitment for you haha).

Let’s talk about strollers… We own four. Yes, four. When I originally chose my stroller, I had planned on owning ONE. So much for that plan…

When your baby is an infant, you will likely¬†want a stroller that their infant car seat clicks into. ¬†Many brands offer stroller and carseat combos that are marketed specifically as¬†“travel systems” but the strollers, while sufficient, were not what I was looking for, so I opted to find the best infant carseat for our family, and then find a stroller it was compatible with, instead of looking for a package deal, just because it was marketed as such.

We chose the Maxi Cosi Mico as our infant carseat. It is compatible with many strollers with an adaptor you buy separately. The first stroller I decided upon was the Quinny Buzz (link is to the newest version).

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Quinny Buzz

There are a lot of things that I love about this stroller. It is SO easy to push, has awesome suspension, it is easy to fold and unfold (it has hydraulics in it so it unfolds on its own… yes, seriously), the seat can be attached forward facing or rear facing or removed entirely and replaced with the car seat, and they used to sell¬†a front tire made for off-road use. First problem: they discontinued the tire before I could buy it so my All In One stroller dream went out the window pretty quickly. Second problem: Abby hates it. If your child throws a fit when they sit in it, all the benefits go out the window. It is slightly heartbreaking, because I still really love this stroller, it just did not work for us, and by us, I mean Abby.

I went back to the drawing board (and got a recommendation from an amazing friend- thanks Liz), and I checked out the Baby Jogger City Select.

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Baby Jogger City Select

This stroller¬†is awesome. Just watch the video on their website. In a nutshell, it is easy to push, easy to fold, has a nice big basket, and, best of all, it grows with your family. Instead of having to buy a double stroller, you can just buy another seat for the City Select and it becomes a double stroller. OR you can add the car seat adaptor and now your toddler and infant are in the stroller together. OR you add a board to the back and your preschooler can ride on the back while your other munchkin(s) are in the seat(s). The seats can face in multiple directions. It’s amazing!¬†And of course it is compatible with our¬†car seat (but as usual you have to buy the adapter separately). This is an amazing stroller that will grow with your family as you have more kids. It is NOT a lightweight stroller, but I LOVE it and¬†so does Abigail.

Once I fell in love with the Baby Jogger brand, I bought their lightweight stroller called the City Mini.

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Baby Jogger City Mini

The City Mini is a FANTASTIC lightweight solution without being uncomfortable to push like ALL UMBRELLA STROLLERS. It folds up with one hand (crucial when you have a baby, diaper bag, shopping bags, and no other adult), is light, easily carried, and is comfortable to push. Plus, the seat back lies completely flat so if your toddler happens to fall asleep in the stroller, you can lie the seat back and they can continue napping. OR if you need a quick place for a diaper change, you can lay the seat back and go to town. We have the four wheel option, but it is available in a three wheel version if you prefer. There is also the City Mini GT that has more bells and whistles. Since we already have the bells and whistles on the City Select, we chose the basic City Mini.

Last but certainly not least is my jogging stroller. I had a very hard time choosing between two: The BOB Revolution SE (everybody’s favorite) and the Thule Urban Glide (new kid on the block). To help with my decision, I borrowed a BOB from a friend. It was good, but it didn’t blow me away. While there wasn’t a ton of information on the Thule Urban Glide since it is a fairly new stroller, the test reviews I read were very positive. So I put it on our family Christmas list and we were very blessed to have¬†received the Thule.¬†Oh boy am I glad that I did!!! I LOVE MY THULE!!!!

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Thule Urban Glide

It is a dream.¬†I can push it effortlessly with one hand and maintain my stride with my other arm. The front wheel can lock, or remain on a swivel, depending upon whether I’m off-roading, or on¬†the road. It folds up super easily. The handle height is adjustable so it is comfortable¬†for both me and my 6’4″ husband to use. Abby loves it (she actually fell asleep in it and she had NEVER napped in a stroller before).¬†And it has little extras that other joggers don’t have, including a seat back that lies almost flat (essentially unheard of on¬†jogging strollers), a huge sunshade that has a transparent visor at the bottom so Abby is protected but can still see, and a basket underneath that is a great size AND has the ability to ZIP SHUT! Trail runs? Trips to the beach? Unexpected puddle while running? No problem- your sweatshirt, wallet, car keys, phone, etc, are all protected in the closed, water resistant basket.ūüôā

Every family needs something different from a stroller. My biggest piece of advice is to go to a store and look, touch, try. Borrow from your friends. Think about how you live your every day life, how much you will use your stroller, and what it will primarily be used for. If you don’t run, you don’t need a jogger! Will you use it just for walks around the neighborhood, leaving it unfolded in your garage? Will you leave it in the trunk of your car to use when you’re out and about?¬†How big is the trunk of your car? Do you live in a walking¬†city and need an all around encompassing stroller to use all the time but that you’ll need to¬†collapse and carry up stairs regularly? Will you baby-wear more often than you would use a stroller? How much do you want to spend? All of these questions will¬†affect your stroller choice.

Most importantly, you don’t need four strollers. You don’t even need ONE stroller! You don’t need all the bells and whistles. You don’t need to spend a ton of money. You need a safe way to transport your baby and guess what- your arms do the job just fine. A stroller¬†might make¬†your life easier, but it definitely isn’t necessary.‚̧

 

It’s a different kind of misery…

I have flown with Abigail by myself a LOT. Most recently, we flew back from Boston yesterday. While admittedly, most people in the airport and on the plane are VERY helpful and understanding, there are always a few that are exceptionally unpleasant.

I know it is incredibly awful to be stuck on a plane with a baby that cries incessantly. Horrible. Miserable. All you want to do is tell the parent(s) to get their act together while simultaneously sticking knives through your ears. Well let me tell you something: it may be unpleasant for you, but nobody feels worse and is more unhappy and miserable THAN THE PARENT OF THE CRYING BABY!!! The eye rolls, sighs, head shakes, and comments like “can’t you make them stop?” do not help. Don’t you think if I could make the crying stop, I would? If I’ve resorted to just rocking my child while letting them cry, it is safe to assume I have tried EVERYTHING else at my disposal to make them feel better. And on top of that, “you just shouldn’t fly anywhere until your baby is old enough to hold it together” is NOT a valid argument. Seriously people? If I didn’t HAVE to fly with her, I WOULDN’T!

So here is a word to the rest of you. The next time you’re stuck on an airplane with a crying baby, while I know it is excruciating (seriously, probably the worst thing in the world, I do not deny that), have a tiny bit of compassion. You don’t have to smile or be nice or offer to help, but keep the attitude and snark to yourself, put in some ear plugs, and say a prayer for the parent because their hell is a whole lot worse than yours.

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So Much Fluff, So Little Time!

There are more types of cloth diapers out there than you could possibly imagine. Seriously. When you think of cloth diapers I’m sure you imagine a huge flat fold bunched and pinned around your little one’s crotch, like our parents and grandparents used to use. Well, my friends, times have changed. There are, of course, still flat folds and many parents choose to use them but there are many other types for you to choose from if flat folds and covers aren’t your thing.

The first thing to know is that you need covers and diapers when cloth diapering. The diaper itself is the absorbent part, and the cover is the waterproof part. I’m sure you can figure out what would happen if you don’t use¬†a waterproof cover…

The types of covers are as follows:

Cover or Wrap: Water proof cover that wraps around diaper and secures in front. Examples can be found here.

Pull on Cover: Water proof cover that pulls up over diaper. Examples found here.

All-In-One (AIO): The absorbent diaper is attached to the waterproof cover (hence the title- it is all in one!). Examples found here.

All-In-Two (AI2) : Waterproof cover that has a snap, velcro or flap at the back that allows you to secure the insert to the diaper cover, keeping it in place. Examples found here.

Pocket: Waterproof cover that has a liner made out of a wicking fabric with an opening at the back, allowing you to stuff the absorbent insert between the liner and the waterproof cover. Examples found here.

Hybrid: A combination of more than one type of cover, i.e. a pocket design with a snap at the back to allow you the choice of snapping or stuffing. Examples found here.

Diapers/Inserts are a whole other story. There are a ton of different types of inserts and they all have different degrees of absorbency, wicking abilities, etc, depending on the size, shape, and material.

The types of inserts & diapers are as follows:

Prefolds and Flatfolds: what you think of when you think cloth diapers. A rectangular piece of absorbent cloth that can¬†be folded in a number of different ways around your babe’s crotch and secured with a¬†snappi¬†or safety pins. They can be made out of any type of material (even old towels) and are the most affordable of all cloth diapers. Examples found here.

Contours: An hourglass shaped piece of absorbent material without any closures. They were designed to replace prefolds and flat folds and they fit inside a diaper cover easily.

Fitteds: A full absorbent diaper with or without closures but with no waterproof layer. Very absorbent and they leak infrequently making them great night time diapers. They do require a cover. Examples found here.

Inserts/Pods/Mini-Pods: These are multiple layers of absorbent material that are made to go inside an AI2 or Pocket diaper. They can be different shapes and sizes, have snaps or not, and allow for a lot of absorbency flexibility since different materials and fabrics all behave differently. Examples found here.

If you are interested in giving cloth diapers a try, I would suggest finding a retailer near you and¬†trying a few different brands/types. Don’t shy away! You can always ask me ANY questions you may have.ūüôā

Abby in a BumGenius 4.0 Irwin print diaper

To Fluff or Not to Fluff?

Topic of the Week: Why We Chose Cloth Diapers

When I found out I was pregnant, I immediately started researching (surprise surprise) about the expense of a new baby. How much money was a little one going to cost us¬†and in what ways could we save our pennies? I knew from many friends of ours who are parents that two of our biggest expenses once the baby arrived would be diapers and formula. Well, formula wasn’t going to be an expense for us¬†because I had already decided to breastfeed (see this post for details). Diaper options, on the other hand, were uncharted¬†territory for me. I was only familiar with disposables.¬†Let the Googling begin!

The first thing I learned was how much (on average) it cost to diaper a baby in disposable diapers from birth until potty training. You know how much we would spend PER KID on disposable diapers? Upwards of $2000! I’ve seen some numbers as high as $4000!! Yes, that is PER KID. For us, $2000 is a trip to Disney World. $4000 is a trip to Europe… I’d much rather take vacation than spend money on poo catchers. The next thing I learned is how much, on average, it costs to cloth diaper at LEAST one kid (meaning this amount buys one set of diapers¬†that can be used¬†for multiple children if the cloth diapers are cared for properly. It also includes energy costs to wash the diapers). On the high side: $500. That’s right folks. I was going to save at least $1500 for the first child, and at least $2000 for each¬†child thereafter by using cloth diapers. Well, that sold me AND Josh on cloth diapers right there. ¬†I was going to have to do more laundry, but with washing machines today, how much more work is it really?

Then I found out some information that bothered me. The chemicals in run of the mill disposable diapers are nasty. Seriously nasty. Can-cause-chemical-burns-on-your-little-one’s-privates nasty. Now, some studies have claimed that the chemicals are so minimally absorbed into the baby’s skin, and the number of children who end up with a chemical reaction/burn/skin irritation is so small that it shouldn’t be a point of argument. Also, it is possible to buy organic diapers that are nearly chemical free, so for argument’s sake¬†we can leave this one off the table, but I still found the information troubling.

Now¬†let’s talk about the environmental impact. The average baby will go through between 2700 and 3000 disposable diapers in their first year alone. That’s a whole lotta garbage. The amount of resources used to make and wash cloth diapers doesn’t even come close to the amount used to make disposables, so disposables definitely lose the energy and environment battle.

People who have never cloth diapered say that cloth diapering is gross and they ask me “What about having to touch the “yuck” when using cloth diapers??” Guess what- I HARDLY EVER have to touch my baby’s waste. If you think you will deal with less poop and pee by¬†using disposables, think again. Ever heard of a “blow out” diaper? That is what parents call a diaper when their baby has had a huge poop and it has “blown out” the sides or back of a diaper. Here is a great picture that I found on this blog of a blow out example. Yes, it is a particularly epic blow out, but still. SO GROSS!

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When we travel, we use disposables and, in both Huggies and Pampers brand, Abby would leak poop out of the legs AND¬†back of the diapers EVERY TIME SHE POOPED! So¬†nasty. The poop leaks are substantially less in Honest Company diapers (when she poops she only leaks up the back, not out the legs), but why should I be dealing with leaky poop at all when the¬†soul¬†purpose of using a diaper is to hold in a baby’s waste?¬†I deal with a whole lot more poop when Abby is in disposable diapers than when she is in cloth, hands down. I have had only two poop leaks in cloth diapers, and they were both fit issues, one my fault and one Josh’s, neither of which were a malfunction of the diaper itself.

Then nay-sayers¬†ask, “doesn’t it stink, having a laundry basket full of poop and pee?” Actually, because I clean the diapers regularly, they sit for less time (3 days at the most) than disposable diapers in a garbage can would. Less time= less bacterial growth= less stink. When you walk into Abby’s room, you can’t¬†there is a basket of dirty diapers in there, but¬†I have had friends call the hallway containing their baby’s disposable diaper pail “Hobo¬†Alley” because it stank so badly of urine and feces. Yuck.

Next question: since you use your washer to wash poop, does your washing machine get nasty? Nope! Everything is dissolved and rinsed away. Think of the other stuff that has been on your clothing and gone into the washing machine. Mud, oil, food, dust, sweat, snot, other bodily secretions… it all gets washed away. That’s your washing machine’s job! No, you can’t dump the, uh, “nuggets” into the washing machine. You have to dump them in the toilet before washing your diapers but anything that doesn’t come off of the diaper without more than a “flick” can go right in the machine. And if you’re still not excited about the excess poo in your washer, you can buy a diaper sprayer for a reasonable amount of money and spray off any excess into the toilet before throwing the diapers into the wash. For the record, you’re supposed to empty¬†disposables too, it’s just that nobody does. Seriously- just read the outside of your package of disposable diapers! Human waste is not supposed to go into the landfill.

I know that cloth diapers aren’t for everybody. It is a little more work, even just to remember to throw the diaper laundry in the washer at the end of the day. A cloth diaper¬†is bulkier than a disposable on the bum making some clothing difficult to fit. They definitely take up more storage space both at home and in the diaper bag. If Abby went to daycare I would be concerned sending my cloth diapers to daycare for fear they would get ruined. And cloth diapers¬†aren’t as easily purchased- you can’t just go run to your local Target or Walmart and get some more. You have to either find a specialty baby store or purchase online to get the particular diaper you use. Not to mention there are a TON of different types of cloth diapers (more on this in another post) and they are all different in style and fit so it takes more work on the front end with research and testing.

For me, the drawbacks were definitely worth the benefits. I can’t say enough good things about cloth diapers (obviously… this blog post is over 1000 words- oops!) and I encourage¬†everyone to give it a try. Besides, how cute is this fluff bum??

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Abigail in her “Nebula” print Soft Bums brand cloth diaper

 

Daddy’s Little Girl

When I was pregnant, a friend of mine (who also has a daughter) told me that the first moment I see my husband holding our baby, my heart was going to explode with more love than I ever knew I could feel. Oh boy, was she right.

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Abby and Josh’s First Picture

When I saw Abby in his arms, I knew it was all over. I was overwhelmed by¬†how much love I felt for Abby and Josh, and what a¬†beautiful sight it was to see them together. I also knew that I was now chopped liver (not really, but you know what I mean). Abigail was officially a Daddy’s Girl.

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Abby and Josh, May 30, 2014

As we get ready to celebrate our family’s first Father’s Day, I find myself wanting to make this day more special than any other holiday. When I was a child, my family had a special tradition of sending the respective parent on a scavenger hunt for their gifts. The first clue would be in their card and at the end of a series of other clues, the presents would be hidden. My brother and I would always help search for the¬†gifts, filling¬†those Sunday mornings with wonderful memories for us. For Josh’s first Father’s Day, I intend to bring the scavenger hunt tradition into our home so that Josh, Abby and any other¬†children we have¬†can also make some new and¬†special memories.

The “Suck” of Breastfeeding

**Warning- this is a very candid post regarding breastfeeding that may make some uncomfortable. Don’t say I didn’t warn you!**

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Feeding my baby doll

Feeding the Baby

Feeding my baby doll

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Before I got pregnant, I knew I wanted to breastfeed Miss A.¬†Even as a little girl, breastfeeding was my choice for my baby dolls. That was what I always knew to be normal! I don’t remember having¬†baby bottles for my dollies and I never thought anything of it. I was, without a doubt, going to breastfeed my own children.

And then I actually had to do it. My pre-birth concerns about¬†breastfeeding were all regarding supply (what if I couldn’t make enough milk?) or difficulty latching (would Abby and I be able to connect the way that we needed to?) but nothing prepared me for the physical pain and emotional struggle of breastfeeding.

Thankfully, supply¬†was the least of my worries.¬†Abby was put right on my chest after birth, and she latched on easily. It wasn’t¬†comfortable, but it didn’t¬†hurt so I assumed we were all good and I would “toughen up” as time went on. Little did I know that the discomfort I felt actually was a problem with Abby’s latch. My super strong girl has a super strong suck and jaw muscles that caused her to “ratchet” her mouth shut as she ate, consequently tearing up my nipple. Couple that with my sensitive skin (common in red heads, according to my lactation consultant), and within 24 hours, I was in excruciating pain every time I nursed Abby, which, at the beginning, was¬†every hour at least… I started dreading those moments that I was supposed to be enjoying. I did not feel the closeness with Abby but only the equivalent of razor blades on my nipple, tearing off the scabs that had formed since the last feeding. Every time Abby latched on, I was reduced to sobs. I felt inadequate, cheated, and sad. 48 hours after birth, J, A and I stopped in and saw my Lactation Consultant (life saving woman, in my opinion) and I put in a call to my birth class teacher who, after having exclusively breastfeeding four children, knows a thing or two about it. It turns out that not only was Abby’s strength causing difficulties, but I also had thrush.

After following both of their advice, I now had a prescription ointment to battle the thrush and help heal the open sores (APNO- a totally miracle!!), was using a nipple shield to allow myself to heal (helpful but an inconvenience, for sure), and preforming exercises to help Abby relax her jaw when eating. With these¬†life changing additions to our routine, feeding my daughter was no longer a miserable experience. We managed to develop¬†a rhythm, working together, and breastfeeding was no longer a burden. It certainly wasn’t enjoyable, but I could tolerate it. I set a goal to breast feed for¬†six months.

Then, we discovered that Abby has a milk protein allergy and I was required to cut out dairy. Hopefully the lack of cheese in my diet will result in a decrease in my pants size… Our next hurtle was to ween Abby off of the nipple shield. I knew that if I was going to breastfeed past six months, I was going to have to get off the pesky nipple shield. Every day we spent one or two feedings learning to latch and feed without the shield. It took four months of dedication, work and patience, but we managed, and now Abby is five months old and nursing freely without the shield. I am no longer torn up and don’t expect it to reoccur (I do have some APNO on hand, just in case). We are still working on her latch; we¬†are not completely pain free when she eats, but I can feel her improve every single day and I am¬†finally enjoying those moments of closeness with my daughter that I so desperately craved when she was first born. I have no doubt that Abby and I will nurse to our six month goal and beyond!

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Yummy yummy milk!

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Milk drunk!

 

UPDATE! Abby and I made it 16 months until she weaned herself.